You Matter To Me Day

You Matter To Me Day is observed each year on October 7. This day is about reaching out and reminding people in our lives that they matter—that their presence, feelings, and worth are seen and appreciated.

History of You Matter To Me Day

You Matter To Me Day was created in 2010 by Linda Jew. She was deeply affected by the loss of a friend and his son in an accident and realized she had never told them “You matter to me.” From that experience, she envisioned a day devoted to making sure people hear that phrase, especially those who may feel overlooked.

October 7 was chosen for symbolic reasons: on that date there was a new moon in Libra, representing new beginnings and connection—an apt moment to reinforce bonds and express love. Over time, the observance has spread across countries and social media, with people participating by sending messages, cards, or simply telling someone they matter.

Why is You Matter To Me Day important?

In a world full of noise, distractions, and social pressures, many people struggle with feelings of isolation, self‑doubt, or invisibility. You Matter To Me Day offers a gentle but powerful reminder: even small affirmations can shift someone’s day or even perspective. Telling someone they matter is a way of validating their existence, their struggles, and their value.

Relationships thrive on connection, and part of that is hearing—explicitly—that we are seen and valued. This day encourages more open emotional expression, which in turn builds empathy, trust, and deeper bonds. It also gives permission to reach out, especially to those who may hesitate to speak up or to people in our lives we might take for granted.

Here are some reasons this day resonates:

• It gives people the chance to hear something meaningful they might rarely receive
• It encourages vulnerability and emotional honesty
• It helps strengthen relationships by expressing appreciation
• It reminds us to notice those who might feel unseen
• It spreads kindness in simple, direct ways

How to Celebrate You Matter To Me Day

Celebrating this day doesn’t require fanfare—often the quietest gestures are the most significant. Choose someone in your life—friend, family, coworker, neighbor—and tell them plainly, “You matter to me.” It can be in speech, a hand‑written note, a text, or via a small gift. What matters most is sincerity.

Another way is to extend that sentiment more broadly. You might post a message on social media, send cards or messages to multiple people (especially those going through hard times), or run a small “You matter” campaign locally—stickers, notes in a community space, or a bulletin board where people can read affirmations. Sometimes, simply offering your time, listening ear, or presence can say more than words.

You could try one of these ideas:

• Write and send a heartfelt message telling someone why they matter
• Leave sticky notes in public or shared spaces with “You matter”
• Call or video chat someone you haven’t spoken to in a while and say it
• Host or join a small gathering (virtual or in person) where people share what matters to them
• Offer to help or listen to someone without judgment—showing your care

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